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I really appreciate the authenticity with which you present your situation. The guilt you are feeling for writing in—and even for having the thoughts feelings you have—is palpable.
It is clear how much you love and care for your wife. You express concern about her physical and mental health and feel fearful that she will not survive long enough to grow old with you. This suggests that you want her to be around to grow old with and you know she needs to be healthier, both physically and emotionally, in order for that to happen. In that vein, I think it could be helpful for you to Wife weight gain story engaging in your own therapy.
You are dealing with fearshameguiltand anxiety about the uncertainty of your marriage. This is a lot to carry around. Therapy can provide a safe place and a strong therapeutic relationship to support you as you sort through these issues. From your description, it does sound entirely possible that your wife could be depressed.
She may also benefit from therapy. If you do decide to enter therapy and you share the benefits of your therapeutic experience with her, she might feel the inspiration and motivation to get started herself. I guess the bottom line is this: You both seem to be hurting, and it seems to be damaging your marriagebut there also seems to be a lot of love here. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. Would you want her to do that to you if you were in the same position? Im betting if I stopped having an income my overweight wife would lose weight an find someone else.
Not obese, but chubby. Most men in my position likely have beautiful wives. I mean, there definitely is reason to her chubbiness. Just the other day she brought over an icecream cake for my bday and she wolfed down like 3 or 4 slices. I just see that as needless excess. Like women expect to have all their needs met but how dare a man call out the Wife weight gain story and exercise habits of her woman. She calls me out for occasionally smoking pot since it is unhealthy.
Well, you know where I am going with this. I need my ego satisfied. Originally I was always afraid to go after the women who had those qualities I was looking for. I saw potential in my fiance and thought she would be perfect if she just got an education and addressed what I thought was just a small issue. Screw your issues with her weight. Your life is going to be profoundly empty if you this perspective up.
This is for Eugene. I was in your shoes. Not as much money but I dated this girl who was chubby and knew that I had problems with it. She tried everything but talk about how to solve it. I do not want an overweight person, I am not attracted to it. I am a fit person, I go to the gym 3 times a week.
I refuse to not be happy in this one life I have.
None of my friends have chubby ladies. I cut it off…. Having an overweight wife is now my problem as well. Why is it always an insult to address a real issue that prevents me from being attracted to her? I think that if someone is able to take care for herself, and they CHOOSE not to, they are putting the marriage in danger. It might be more her fault that yours that the marriage is in danger. Equivalency has nothing to do with this situation. Stop trying to shame the dude into remaining unhappy.
It does matter and it sucks. If she was when they got married, she was either just a bit chubby or totally in her weight range depending on her height but never the build of a Victoria secret model. So it sounds like he was happy with the build of an average woman and does Wife weight gain story reasonable expectations. When you view someone as lazy and undisciplined that can affect your attraction level.
His lack of attraction might be tied to the weight because its visible but it could be a combination of things. A BF of mine and were planning a romantic night out which rarely happened so I was excited and I dressed in my best, sexiest dress, hair done, makeup done, trying so hard to impress him. When I asked when he was going to get ready we lived together cause we needed to go soon, it turned out he was. No shower, jeans and ratty shirt. I actually love scruffy, sort of grungy guys.
A beard, pair of jeans and some old shirt is hot to me. I felt really taken for granted. Course the relationship was full of that but, yeah, it was one more thing. I wonder if he feels that way about her letting herself go?
I still think it sucks how shallow men can be. What happened to you vows, for better or worse, sickness and health? MS, Lupus, Cancer. Much easies to discard. My strong handsome husband got cancer. He lived for 19 years in chronic pain. Weighted lbs, and aged sinificantlly.
I was only Our sex life was over, dining out was over. I never once thought of leaving him. I loved the man I married. I valued my vows. According to medical experts our chemistry changes, so a complete blood work, and other tests are needed. No woman wants to be fat.
I think she should leave you. So sad. Being fat or in shape is totally in our control. It was devastating. I was just thinking about the point you bring up about illness.
Well actually I know the reason. I put on all the weight while I was in very abusive, very destructive relationship. He is pretty much totally dependent for everything: nourishment, hygiene and toileting. She changes him, feeds him, diapers him, wipes his bottom, cleans up his vomit, gets spit on, hit and occasionally peed on.
She patiently tolerates his yelling bouts and or happy noises which are equally as loud and stressful God bless him. Are you going to love your spouse sincerely when life happens, through thick and Wife weight gain story, for better or for worse? Pat, I am SO sorry for your loss. My husband is surrounded by gorgeous women where he works.
He wants a brunette with a thin frame. I am a strawberry blonde with gray-green eyes, and am just over lbs, but had all my blood work done, which showed that I am pretty healthy fit and fat but do need to lose about lbs. Which I am willing to do for ME to live longer.
I am SO heartbroken that nothing I do is ever good enough for my husband. All he can think about is the women he is surrounded by at work, and how much he wants them. He is physically gorgeous, and before we were married I always wondered why he was single. Now I know. Just like our friend Mr. Your comment about how much you miss your husband was beautiful.
The smallest I can be is a size 10 and that is with living on nothing but spinach and water. Thank you for your comment. It put everything in perspective for me.Wife weight gain story
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